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  • Dedan K. Bruner

Jamar

Updated: Apr 2, 2019

Married

Father of 1 - Emory (5 months old)

Suitland, Maryland


Fathering Tip

In the era of social media, it’s easy to get lost in your feed or timeline and find yourself caught up with what everyone else is doing with their kids. So my advice -- being new to the game -- is to enjoy YOUR journey and avoid comparisons.


As a father of a newborn, I’ve quickly learned that each day will present something new. And throughout my wife’s pregnancy and through Emory’s first few months of life, that’s consistently been the case. However, as much as I have dreams for my son and hopes of what he can be in the future, I don’t want to get so wrapped up in what’s to come that I miss out on the blessings of today. That’s very easy to do, especially being a father to a son. Of course I want to pass on some of the things to him that I enjoyed growing up, but those things may not even be of interest to him.


It’s very exciting to look ahead and see things I imagined (Hi, Solange), but fatherhood is a daily journey and is meant to be enjoyed. In this journey, as Emory grows and discovers the world, I want him to be equipped and prepared to deal with what’s to come, while embracing the present, maximizing each day, and not being distracted (too much) by outside noise. And I have to be sure I’m applying the same standard in my own as his father.